We're Learning

Monday, April 12, 1999

Jev and I had a bit of a rough morning, but we managed to salvage it before things got too messy. He'd been unpleasantly surprised by the results on a test he took last week, and I tried to convince him that one test didn't mean he was a failure. That wasn't what he wanted or needed to hear though, and it took me a while to wake up and realize where I'd gone wrong.

In the end, we didn't make much of a mess of things; for once, I managed to keep control of my temper and my patience and not lash out and say something I would regret, two seconds later. I'm proud of myself for that,and I'm proud of Jev for staying as together as he did, under the circumstances.

After things were all talked out, he headed off for lunch and his last class, and I got myself together, had lunch, then headed out to the porch, theoretically to work on my English Garden Sampler. I didn't get much done on it before I became extremely sleepy, so I put it away in its bag, curled up in my chair on the porch, and dozed off.

When I woke up -- I was really dreaming some vivid dreams, so I must have been very out of it -- the shadows were getting longish, and I could hear Oprah on the TV in the living room, so I knew I was at least a little bit late for meeting Jev online at 4 my time.

He didn't seem to mind, as he'd onlly hopped on a few minutes before (it was around 4:30), and we talked for a bit, and decided to do our own things again until 8 my time. So I hopped offline again and played Sim City and had dinner, and it was soon time to meet up again. We did, and he asked if I'd mind if he went across the hall to watch wrestling, so that gave me a couple more hours to play games.

We finally met up for good around 10 my time, and we worked a little on figuring out my travel plans for coming out to see him graduate, and choosing our apartment. Actually, he did all the 'legwork' and I just gave my opinions on things, and stitched some more on my sampler. When we had all that figured out, he did some more car-hunting online, and I mostly listened and made comments, while I stitched. He eventually climbed up into bed and we talked a bit more, but it wasn't long before he was ready to go to sleep. I won't complain, because after getting ready for bed and writing this, I'm ready to go to sleep too.

As I type this the next morning...

As much as Jev and I didn't have all that much time together yesterday, the time we did have together was pretty good (not counting the deal with the test results). Looking back at how much of our free time we spent away from each other, I can honestly say there have been times when I would have felt really neglected and unwanted, had he wanted to spend that much time away from the computer (and me). What's changed? I'm not sure... it's not that we don't want to spend time together and do things together... but I think we're both getting to the point where we're spoiled by the time we've had together in the flesh, and computer time just isn't quite the same.

It's a good thing, I'm sure... I think as much as the two of us are into computers, making a habit of getting away from them on a regular basis is good for us. Fortunately, we won't have to rely on the things much longer for our main means of communication, and we can spend our time away from them together. Less than a month to go now, before I fly out there for graduation; it's hard to believe it's so close, and that the years we've had to be apart are almost over!